How to Improve your Marriage: Episode 221 with Tod Jacobs and Peter Lynn

In this week's episode of the Personal Development Without The Fluff podcast, we're excited to have an amazing conversation with authors of the book Not a partnership: Why We Keep Getting Marriage Wrong & How We Can Get It Right – Peter Lynn and Tod Jacobs. 

The way we define marriage is two people that are totally committed to the well being of each other – Peter Lynn

We're excited to bring to you an amazing conversation packed with great resources around relationships in general and marriage in particular.

Let's face it. Being married can be hard. Especially once that honeymoon phase is over and you've been a few years around the block.

A lot of marriages fail, now more than ever. Some people end up avoiding going down the path of marriage altogether and stay in this loop of always looking for someone better. But, is the grass really greener on the other side?

In this conversation, we unpack all things marriage as we dig deep into how to actually make your marriage not just work, but to thrive!

As you will find out, one of the key elements of a successful marriage is to take responsibility for your own actions and words. We talk about why the judgment of the partner is one of the key pitfalls to a marriage ending, how taking the good things for granted is a recipe for disaster, and what to do about it.

Not married? No problem! This conversation not just for married folks. The insights that you will learn in today's episode will transform your thinking around how you communicate, how you see yourself and it will give you practical tools to use to get your relationships from okay to fully thriving again!

Great marriages are built – they don’t just happen – Peter Lynn


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How To Improve Your Marriage – In This Episode:

  • Learn the two fundamental things to a great marriage most get wrong
  • How to deal with your partner being different to you
  • Why relationships break down and how to avoid it 
  • How changing yourself allows your partner to grow too
  • What to do when the “honeymoon phase” is over
  • …and much more!

Relationships and especially marriage is the ultimate growth opportuniy – Tod Jacobs

Learn More About Peter Lynn and Tod Jacobs

Beyond being a typical collaboration between two authors or scholars, this book represents the culmination of more than thirteen years of work that Tod and Peter have done together in the area of marriage. The students of the institute they lead have provided a living laboratory for how to prepare for marriage, face, and ultimately overcome its classic and idiosyncratic challenges.

The pair’s primary objective with their students as they head towards marriage is to help them focus both on developing a mature and idealistic vision of marriage as the primary vehicle to create wholeness, meaning, purpose and happiness in their lives, and on working to perfect the character issues that lie at the core of a successful spouse — giving, empathy, focus, staying power and a strong desire to help build the other.

Their work combines practical and mystical Jewish wisdom with modern theory and techniques, and with experience accrued through years of real-world implementation and practice. Their unique but differing backgrounds and accomplishments broaden the impact of their work and partnership still further.

Time Stamps:

5.20 Tod and Peter share how they came up with the idea of writing the book 

10.00 Deep relationship insights from classical ancient mystical texts 

16.00 What are the biggest misconceptions that are creating turmoil in relationships? 

29.40 Practical things that you can use right now in quarantine to improve relationships

49.00 Why so many people break up with their partners after finding out they are different from them and what to do about it

67.00 One massive insight on how to change your behaviors in relationships